“Oh that you were like a brother to me who nursed at my mother’s breasts! If I found you outside, I would kiss you, and none would despise me.” (Song of Solomon 8:1).
One error that floated around the Roman Empire was men should have three women in their lives — a wife, a soul-mate, and a mistress. The Song of Solomon paints a picture of married love where one woman is everything the man needs. She is his lover, his sister, and his friend.
A bride is to be her husband’s "love” (Song of Solomon 1:9). This means they enjoy one another physically and romantically. They romantically love one another. They set their affections upon one another. They rejoice to kiss and touch and embrace one another. They cultivate the romantic part of their lives, believing God has gifted them with one another.
A bride is to be her husband’s “sister” (Song of Solomon 4:9). Later in the song, the bride is thinking of the closeness a brother and sister would experience and be able to display in that culture (Song of Solomon 8:1-2). Public displays of affection were frowned upon, but siblings could publically hug and hold hands. To be brother and sister together is what a Christian marriage is, at least in part. The level of the soul is cared for as a Christian couple fellowships with one another, encouraging each other in their walk with Christ.
A bride is to be her husband’s "friend” (Song of Solomon 5:16). This speaks of more than romance, but of the joy and laughter and help that comes with friendship. As a married couple stands shoulder to shoulder to deal with all life throws at them, a friendship enables them to handle all things well. Rather than robotically move through the responsibilities of life, this couple enjoys each other as they tackle each passing year.
The song is beautiful for many reasons, but one major reason is this: one woman occupies every space in this man’s heart. She fulfills every role beautifully and perfectly. I think he had allowed her to do so.